Dating Diary Second Scenario

Today’s dating scenario topic is mixing business with pleasure. What are the ethics surrounding dating a guy simply to get to an opportunity that would be harder to come by if you didn’t date him? This is a hard one mainly because I am in this situation right now, ‘tis quite controversial that I’m discussing while it is taking place. However, if I write with the exact emotions that I am experiencing my message will be put across with more fluidity and sincerity.

Scenario #2- Long story short a guy has asked me out on a date but he’s also a great lead for my career pursuits. However I don’t like him like that. So my dilemma is, If I say no, I may just lose out on the opportunities. Or if I say yes, I’m essentially being false and un genuine with him.

!!UPDATE!! I declined a date with him; he never did contact me again ha.

I won’t even attempt lying; I definitely considered just doing it to stay in his good books. I needed the step up the ladder. Now let me just make it clear firstly, I’m not even speaking about sex, I’m just speaking about dating and hanging out in a “more than friends” sense.

As females we are still considered the lesser sex. I know it’s a heavy thing to drop but it’s the reality. Society will still scrutinise the female way before they put down the male, if anything they will praise the male.  So when dating a colleague, boss or someone who can help you step up the ladder, be aware of the derogatory terms attached to such escapades. One must be on top of your morals and standards at all times.

In my case it was easier for me to walk away from the situation because I didn’t like him like that but there are plenty of women who may’ve fallen in too deep. The risk you always take with mixing business with pleasure is that if you have an argument or jealousy flares up in the provider, then we can often be catapulted right back down to square one.

As a female, a young female to be specific; your dignity and self worth is so much more important than an opportunity. A line and a boundary must always be set. For instance if the feelings you experience are genuine and mutual a decision still has to be made.

Here’ s a fe questions to mull over;

Do I take the opportunity and we remain platonic?

Do we start dating but then I can perhaps find an opportunity elsewhere?

Or do I just see what happens?

It’s a very sticky subject because love comes from any crevice you never dared to look but I think an emotional pre nup should be put into place. So even if things don’t work out and they go sour, you both promised to keep things separate. However let’s be honest when emotions fly high, it can all go out the window.

Another point is as I stated earlier; if you don’t like them like that. Do want to be involved in leading somebody on?  Think of how it would make you feel. It would be quite hurtful and your levels of integrity will plummet. So ultimately if saying “no” means that you may hurt the other persons feelings, your morals are always paramount. If they do resent you, hold your head up because you did them a favour by making way for the right person to come into their life. They’ll thank you eventually.

In conclusion a value should be set on your own dreams outside of love because like I said we are still considered the lesser sex, we have so much more to lose.  Plus never ever let a man hold anything over your head, ever, period.  As a young 21^st century female, you have to keep your wits about you, if life throws you a curve ball and it is “true love”, just be extremely sure that your career is in no way affected. It’s a tough world out there for us and the best you can do is not let our obvious “emotion” play the leading role when it comes to major decisions regarding your future. Plus I personally have the firm belief in “if it’s yours, you can let it go and it will always come back to you”, a true career opportunity will always present itself.